Please, let yourselves feel the feelings, cry freely and openly. It's the first step toward
healing. Don't listen to anyone who tells you you need to be strong or should be strong. This is your time. Talk about that horrific day, allow the children to talk about it. If you can't deal with it and are experiencing a deep depression, seek professional help.
It never will get better, it does get different. That difference will be better. If possible, try to remember that although a body may have died the most important and precious part of loved ones still lives. Their soul and spirit. They continue to live in the hearts and minds of all that were left behind. Again I am so sorry. If it was possible, I would personally hug and listen to each and everyone of you. I do volunteer work at a local hospice that my mother died in three years ago. I not only do hands on resident care but am part of the bereavement team. Hospice bereavement offices as far as I know will counsel anyone that is grieving. They truly do understand and care about people who have suffered a recent loss.
God Bless all of you.
"To touch the soul of another human being is to walk on holy ground." James L Covey